True Stories About Interracial Hook-Ups, Dating, And Relationships

——“You’re a lesbian, interracial couple? Wow.”

 I never thought I had a type, but I had also never dated anyone who wasn’t white before I met my current girlfriend. When I first saw her (and her smile), I was smitten. And there was a comfort and an instant ease that I’d never experienced before. I don’t remember thinking about the possible issues we could face as an interracial couple or from the fact that I would be a Jewish woman from New Jersey dating a Bangladesh-born, Queens-raised Muslim woman.

It’s probably a mix of naïveté and the way infatuation clouds clarity, but throughout our now two-year relationship, race hasn’t been an issue for us. Of course, there are always the people who meet us for the first time and automatically assume the odds stacked against us. “You’re a lesbian, interracial couple? Wow.” But what those people see in us says far more about who they are than it does about who we are.